All tagged mother is a verb

WHY OUR MOTHERS TELL US TO ENJOY OUR YOUTH AND BE HERE NOW

It’s getting close to Mother’s day. Not like tomorrow, but kinda. And I miss my Mom. Also, in case you’re wondering, yes, I still consider myself youthful. I’m not middle aged and I will arm wrestle you just to prove it. Anyway, I just came across this image of my girl. My baby. Who’s now almost 8. Who hugged me tonight and said “you’re such a good Mom and you’re doing great.” Yep, my baby. All of a sudden I’m totally confused. No, I’m not uneducated, I do fully understand the concept of time. But why does it riddle us so incredibly well? I look at her face, her dimples, her hair, her arms, her baby teeth, and I’m taken back to our old house. To the rainy days when we would walk our driveway and pick spring flowers in her new rain boots. To another place and time. To me relenting to myself out loud over and over and over again, those were the days. And as I’m currently playing “scary monster” to my twin boys in the bonus room of our current home, I glance at the image one more time and I correct myself. “These are the days.” My eyes begin to well up with expected tears as I prepare another ‘scare’ for my boys who are patiently waiting for mommy to get her shit together and wipe her tears. My oldest twin says “Mommy crying?” I say “Mommy is happy. I love you.” He smiles and we play monsters on a Monday.

TO THE MOM WHO HASN'T MADE IT TO SPRING BREAK BLISS

It’s spring break. The stubborn sun is starting to show its beautiful face again. The flowers are blooming. The wind is a breezy cool, but subtle. The neighbors are at the lake house. The bestie is headed to London with her tribe. And your co-worker is paddle boarding in Miami with a margarita on the edge of her board. And you? Got a husband out of town, two toddlers with 103 fevers, double ear infections and zero family in town to help. Oh and school is out. And it’s spring break 2019.

IT'S OK TO STAY HOME WITH YOUR KIDS

Yes, it’s ok. It’s ok to stay home and raise your babies. Babies: the humans you created. Yes. It’s ok to stay home with your kids. It’s also ok to work full time. It’s also ok to stay home with your babies and work part time. Or dream about working full time. It’s all ok. I’m not sure when it became the standard to judge a mother on her stance as to which dynamic she carries in the home. Whenever or whoever came up with the idea is clearly not a mother. And here’s why.